October 31, 2008
Behind the Book with Melissa Blue
MELISSA BLUE is a frequent visitor here at the Chicas site, and one of our favorite people. So it is with a great deal of pleasure that we announce the release of her latest novel, SEE MEGAN RUN, from the Wild Rose Press, and turn the blog over to her today.
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THE THORNY RELATIONSHIP
Mothers and daughters have a relationship that only mothers and daughters can understand. These relationships are nothing like their counterparts—father/daughter or the mother/son relationships. I’ve yet to meet a woman who didn’t have issues with their mothers.(Some who still do for that matter) Or worse have started their own rocky road with their daughters. * If this is a subject you’d rather not read just skip to the links at the bottom of this post. *
Now I’ll be the first to admit I wasn’t the ideal daughter. (It’s rude to snort that loudly. And, yes, I know it’s not much of a surprise.) Trust me, it doesn’t take my mother much goading to spill the stories of those moments in my life where I was pumped up on pheromones and slightly insane. Her favorite story is the time I flicked a tear at her. Yes, you’ve read that right. I once flicked a tear at my mother. I’m not even sure how I did it or why I did it. Seriously, I blame that temporary insanity on hormones.
So, before I embarked on writing See Megan Run I knew that thorny relationship very well. I had even written about it prior in an unsold women’s fiction novel. There is something so elemental about this relationship I HAD to write about it again. Yet this time I wanted to write it from a humorous point of view, and just because I’m mean, I kept the mother alive this time.
Yes, breathing.
I wanted my heroine not only have to deal with her mother, but to live with her. * Just a show of hands, who wouldn’t do this for a million dollars? * This mother would not have been June Cleaver in her hey day. I wanted a past between these two women that would be fraught with tension and conflict. You know, like most mother and daughter relationships.
Here’s the first paragraph of SEE MEGAN RUN:
Megan Hazley frowned at the dirt driveway leading to the home she had sworn to never step foot in again and then said into her cell phone, “Think wire hangers and you’ll get a sense of the woman who birthed me.”
Even after a million revisions of this first paragraph, the wire hanger reference stayed. Isn’t that a mother’s worse nightmare? Nine out of ten mothers would winced if ever called Mommie Dearest.
I digress.
By this point I pretty much knew Megan would want to kill me. I think I’ve pointed out I’m cruel. * Come on. I didn’t kill the mother off. * I threw in a monkey wrench most women come up against once they’ve grown up—I made Megan start to like her mother.
I had to cross this bridge myself. I was about to have my second child. I was leaning on my mother more than usual for moral support and the like. Then a light bulb hit me in the head—it isn’t easy being a mother. Sometimes you can really screw up and just hope your child doesn’t need too many years in therapy. I was pregnant at the time, so I probably cried when the moment hit me.
Megan, well, she deals with it her way. And I know if she existed she’d still come at me with a two-by four. *Really, I kept her mother breathing. *
With a show of hands, who knows this thorny relationship?
~ Melissa Blue and I’m out.~
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Yeah, I think “issues” between mothers and daughters are pretty common (and certainly much has been made of father/son relationships).
Making peace between the two in your book must’ve been quite a job!
Congrats on the new release, Mel—sounds great!
mo ther issues… don’t get me started! LOL
congrats on the new release… and I like that cover
Raine, first it’s great to see ya out and about. (Doesn’t that sound strange since we are on the internet.)
Second, thanks for having me. I might as well be a Chica since I come here so often. I guess I’d have to move to the south first, though.
Third, I don’t have the right equipment to expound on father/son relationships. I am aware that when there is conflict in those types of relationships, the two men rarely talk it out. In order to bridge that relationship they might go get sweaty or something. The minds of men are a mystery…
Lastly, thanks for the congrats. I’ve been run ragged promoting this book. Apparently, it’s paid off because both my first book and See Megan Run are on the bestseller list for my line. YAY!
mo ther issues… don’t get me started!
I want to know. It’s the writer in me of course. But Raine said it, it was quite a job to write this sucker. This relationship is really like no other. Mothers/Daughters are pretty much stuck together (to a lot of women’s frustration). Thankfully, I came at it in a humorous way or I would have cried from beginning to end of this book. Megan was a pleasure to write. She was nobodies cry baby and the scene where things start to change, I read to my mother. She rolled her eyes and then started to laugh. I figured it was a winner. (My mother is not the one to laugh all my jokes, so I figured I had a winner.)
Thorny….I think it was more like love/hate and the lover and the hater could vary on any given day. The day before I had Brandon my mom said, “I never told you about childbirth, did I?”
Uh no
“Well, it hurts.”
Thx
Yeah…I did. And I’m still alive to tell about it.
I got her back though. The next week was her 53rd birthday. Know what she did? She took me grocery shopping because I couldn’t drive.
You might have flicked a tear but I bet you never shot the bird?
She’d have been 68 two days ago and when she died there was a lot of baggage left between us. She raised me to be independent but didn’t want to let go of me and I always felt like I was such a huge disappointment to her–I was never pretty, or thin or popular and I always wanted more. I was never satisfied. I’m still not sure that she was ever really proud of me, but the last conversation we had was not a nice one and two days later she was dead. She was the glue that held our family together through sheer force of will–and I’m NOT kidding.
*sigh* I could write a book about it all, but well, you already have.
Raine, first it’s great to see ya out and about. (Doesn’t that sound strange since we are on the internet.)
Thank ye, ma’am. (It is sorta like a really big neighborhood, isn’t it?).
Apparently, it’s paid off because both my first book and See Megan Run are on the bestseller list for my line. YAY!
Oh you go, girl! Congratulations!!
*sigh* I could write a book about it all, but well, you already have.
No, I wrote my take on this thorny relationship. I won’t be the last so you might as well get in line. Also, I believe the true test of these relationship is accepting the other person. Or learning to deal with them on some level that won’t drive you insane. My mother isn’t perfect, but I wouldn’t trade her in. She helped made me who I am (for better or worse, so blame her if you don’t like me.) But it’s taken time and a meeting of minds to get there. I know not every gets that opportunity. I’m sure Megan and Nicole’s relationship will hit home for a lot of woman, but I hope at the end of the day, they’ll realize you can’t kill your mother so you might as well learn to live with her.
(It is sorta like a really big neighborhood, isn’t it?).
Yes, it is.
I have turned into my mother somewhat, but I’ve also worked very hard not to repeat some of her most egregious mistakes.
Overall, I think the one thing being a mother has taught me is to appreciate, value, and most importantly, learn to forgive my mom.
Motherhood has allowed me to see and UNDERSTAND the simple fact that she did the best she could, and that’s pretty damned good considering everything. I mean, I wasn’t an angel by any stretch of the imagination.
It’s so easy for daughters to criticize and find fault with their moms UNTIL they walk in her shoes. That little stroll changes everything. Talk about a real eye-opener!
Congrats on the book! I love the first paragraph and it sounds like a fabulous story!
Overall, I think the one thing being a mother has taught me is to appreciate, value, and most importantly, learn to forgive my mom.
Ditto. I also think it it inevitable to turn into your mother a little bit. The things your swore to never say to your own kids….shudder. The smart women just by-pass children.
Thanks for coming over, Melina.
Mom issues….. yeah, well my relationship with my mom, certainly had me making some very deliberate decisions when raising my son. I always kept in mind that at some point we were going to both be adults, and I wanted that mutual repect, and a solid friendship in place (trust, things in common, etc). Great cover, love the excerpt, and congrats!!
Thanks, Vanessa.
And, I just wanted to thank the Chicas for having me.