February 11, 2008
Just Say No
To VD…….

No hearts, no flowers, no candy, no roses, no money for…..THE MAN. And no, I’m not talking about YOUR man, I’m talking about the man who makes all that money off of what amounts to a man-ufactured holiday. It is time for us, all of us, to put our foot down and say NO MORE. No more commercial holidays. No more colored candy. No more diamond sales. No more expensive dinners. No more chocolate. Sorry had to scratch that last one….they threatened to take away my Woman Card.
It’s bad enough what they did to Christmas and Easter (Jesus wasn’t crucified so your kid could get a colored bunny and a new dress)…and yes Halloween and Thanksgiving too. PEOPLE WAKE UP. You’re being conned out of your hard-earned money. Do you know what those DeBeers commercials really mean? You know, the one about leaving your woman speechless? Comedian, Ron White says, “Diamonds. That’ll shut her up.” That’s what they really mean. (PS I love Ron White–he’s so crass).
I found this luscious tidbit over at DumpYourWifeNow (obviously THEY are all for boycotting VD).
Real romance is about spontaneity, choice, and reciprocity. Valentine’s Day, on the other hand, is contrived, commercial, unilateral nonsense. If you want to do something special and genuine, choose her birthday and other times when she least expects it. Anything done on Valentine’s Day is a joke.
From Fox News: “It’s supposed to be a holiday of happiness and warmth but instead ends up being a holiday of stress and fear.”
Though it’s technically a celebration of all manifestations of love, Valentine’s Day — named for St. Valentine, who, legend has it, wrote a passionate letter to the apple of his eye from prison, which he signed “From Your Valentine” — is more about the romantic kind than anything else. The young newlywed from Connecticut said words on a page wouldn’t suffice in this day in age.
“If we just wrote a letter, we’d be in the doghouse,” he said.
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“Valentine’s Day is a time for retailers to rape and pillage,” said the Nantucket husband.
It’s precisely all the pressure — to be part of a couple, to be romantic, to be generous, to be thoughtful — that makes people turn against Feb. 14, sometimes vehemently. Robarge, the Glamour editor, said she “physically rejected” the holiday last year by getting violently ill after a cozy evening of drinking wine and eating cheese with her then-boyfriend.
So it’s (probably) too late to really do anything this year (I guess), but I encourage the world to boycott Valentines Day. Stop the Madness.
There are better and yes, more meaningful ways to say I Love MyselfYou.
I encourage you all to take my little button up there and put it on your blog….keep it up all year long and next year, hopefully February 14th will just be another day in the life. Now, go forth and boycott!



Okay. So. If St. Valentine was writing a letter FROM PRISON… well, that just sounds like a stalker to me. WTF? He was writing FROM PRISON? Yeah, like the apple of his eye really wants a letter from an incarcerated maniac.
I’m all for boycotting VD. It’s a crock.
My new motto: Get it up; Get it on; get out!

Lol.
Guess you have a problem with this day, huh?
I’d have no problems with a boycott. Yes, it is a commercially manufactured holiday.
And men, if you need a specific day to show your lady how much you love and appreciate her, there are issues in the relationship.
Yeah, like the apple of his eye really wants a letter from an incarcerated maniac.
Dude! Vee! Seriously! Issues!
Vday is pointless to me. I’ve never celebrated it really. Seriously. I can’t boycott something I don’t do anyway. Hee hee.
I hate Valentine’s Day, always have. It’s a holiday cooked up by happy people to make lonely people feel lonlier. I was one of those kids in class who watched everyone else get valentines. It’s the lonliest day of the year next to New Years.
I’ve always–ALWAYS–hated Valentine’s Day. It’s one of the most annoying pseudo holidays they’ve ever come up with. I hope it crashes and burns.
I’m all for a boycot! I’ve always gotten cards, but really, I just think the day sucks. LOL I hate that it’s so commercial, and that people have to be reminded to treat their loved ones (Or themselves) right.
I hafta say (and you’ll probably hit me next time you see me) I won’t boycott–frankly I don’t have to do anything (well I do buy a little box of candy for the boys–but I can nab that in the checkout line on theumpteen trip to the store for food and I am good). It is however another time I can keep the dh in check. If he forgets, he’s in the shithouse for a while–I hold grudges
if he remembers, I won’t yell at him for anything for a couple of weeks. For married folk (read wives) it’s the checks and balance part of the rest of the year along w/ b-day and anniversary. Maybe a cynical way to view it, but I take my lot where I can.
for single folks though–yep, a money-making pile o-dog-doodie!
I’ve always hated the day. And I hate that is starts as children with those damn valentines’ the kids are supposed to do up and give away at school. It turns into a popularity contest with who got the most, then later in junior high and high school it’s about flowers, and who got some and who didn’t. Like if you didn’t get a rose from someone on V day, you were nobody and not worthy of love.
When I was married, we didn’t exchange presents on the day, we’d go out for a nice dinner. But we usually went on for a nice dinner at least twice a month anyway, so it wasn’t anything extra special.
What you all said, especially Sasha. Why do we need a day to remind ourselves that we must treat our loved ones right? And there is such pressure on guys which really isn’t fair. It’s a bit of a crock.
I even blogged about this today too! LOL The sentiment is spreading I think…
No diamonds?
Can we at least keep the gemstones?
I like jewelry. Can we have a holiday just for buying expensive jewelry? I need something to go with my wedding ring. Seriously, a big honking rock on the other hand would add to the lovely what-we-could-afford-at-the-time ring. I suppose I could push for the anniversary to be the jewelry day, but can it be once a month instead of once a year?
Denise no comment……
Amanda…..my fave piece of jewelry is a necklace made of amethyst, seed pearls, and sudjulite (sp?). I bought it for myself for my birthday one year. A psychic friend made it–and NO not from teh “network”
VIvi you are so right! I think I’ll repost the same post I’ve put up on VD the last three years from when my son was in 4th grade. OMG *big eye roll here* I’m so glad I don’t have daughters.
PS Amanda…..my goal is a big honking diamond ring. I’d had high hopes for the 10th anniversary of my divorce but I got sick so maybe this August for my 12th anniversary :D If not….there’s always the 15th in a few years
Sasha…….RIGHT ON!
*hits Dennie*
Karen sweet! by this time next year, no more VD
Like if you didn’t get a rose from someone on V day, you were nobody and not worthy of love.
That’s it exactly. That’s how I felt/feel.
I do have to giggle at the Valentine’s Day initials. VD huh? Talk about spreading the love …
“No more diamond sales. No more expensive dinners”
Speak for yourself, girl. If it’s all about diamonds and expensive dinners, then I’m all about Valentines. lol.
Seriously, I can take or leave Valentines. I guess I was lucky with my exes in that they have made a big deals about the day in the past, *but* they didn’t leave the romance–or big or small gesture– for that one day alone. So it/their behaviour didn’t feel contrived. Also the day wasn’t just about *me* it was about *us* so I just as likely to romance him/them.
As a single gal well out of her twenties, it doesn’t even register with me except for noticing all the pink and red stuff in the stores.
do have to giggle at the Valentine’s Day initials. VD huh? Talk about spreading the love
Bailey that’s why it’s called a SOCIAL DISEASE!
Aw, I missed the comment on veneral disease. I was hoping to be the first.

Umm. Not exactly what I meant, but hey, a girl’s got to have her standards. Just say no to VD! If you got it, I don’t want it. Tell his skanky ass to get gone.
Oh I always loved Valentines Day…..I always had alot of them in my little hand crafted valentine box I made at school….LOL
I am sooooooooooooooooo with Amanda on the JEWELRY….I am a silver whore and I own stock in James Avery. They just dont know it…
I never had my woman card because I DO NOT like Chocolate.
But I do not need anyone to buy my jewelry. I can buy my own. At least I get what I want then….
But I like sending cards and Valentines and sending my nieces and nephews candy and stuff. I like doing that for people. I dont need a special day to do it though. I think people should know they are special all the time not just holidays.
At my blog I discussed a few of the reasons I dislike February. VD being one of them.
You know, Valentine’s Day is kind of like the real VD. It was started in America (by a card company) and has spread like a virus to other developed countries.
Seriously, should they have the World Health Organization work on developing a containment strategy?
It’s a holiday cooked up by happy people to make lonely people feel lonlier.
Baily - I’m so totally going to quote you on that!!
Fuck Valentine’s Day. (Oh, can I say fuck here?)
FUCK YEAH!
I boycott VD all the time.
*snickers*
Seriously, should they have the World Health Organization work on developing a containment strategy?
Yes damnit they should!
I agree.
Hype.
I ignore it, which is easy enough for me to do.