November 27, 2006
Writerly Misgivings
So recently my cohorts in crime blogged about Fear, Divorcing your Work and Michelle has an upcoming blog on Mistakes in Writing which makes me think I should blog about something writerly-like since, you know, we’re writers.
*scratching head* I’m having a hard time coming up with something sufficiently witty to add to the fray. And to be honest, I’m reluctant to hand out advice like granny hands out Pumpkin Pie on Thanksgiving, so I think I’ll just sit here and be brutally honest–which will probably get my ass in big trouble but it won’t be the first time…after all I’m just throwing paint on the elephant that everyone ignores so you can all see it for what it is. But something recently happened that left tme thinking some pretty rotten things about…some folks…and reminded me once again of something I already knew.
There’s something rather scary about getting a bunch of women together–YOU KNOW there’s going to be
trouble. Don’t deny it. It’s funny how they say the world would be such a better place if women ran things but you know what? I think they’re full of shit. I think we’d still have problems if women were the majority in charge instead of men becuase we’re all a bunch of bitches.
I’ll admit I’m a bitch but I tend to be a pretty up-front bitch. I absolutely possitively don’t deal in bullshit and I have a tendancy to view everyone wtih a rather sceptical eye–blame it on being burned one too many times by, you guessed it, a woman.
I’m not sneaky. I don’t like games. So don’t play games and act the bitch on me cause you can damned sure bet I’ll call your ass on it, and call you seven kinds of a bitch in the process. I’m not a schemer, I’m not cunning, but most women are, throw in the competitiveness of the writing industry and you have a bonfire in the making.
A big bonfire!
I have few writer friends, some people I admire, tons of acquaintances and just as many women out there that I’d as soon spit on as trust.
So, is there a point to all of this? I don’t know. I don’t know if my choice to ignore the mean girls has served me well or not, but I DO KNOW for the sake of my mental health, it’s what I’ll continue to do.
Some other tips for preserving your sanity: Exercise, even if it’s just a walk, get plenty of rest and drink lots of water, you’ll need your strength.
trust me on this. Keep your friends close, and your enemies far FAR away. Trust your gut, even above your friends, trust your gut. Keep an eye on your enemies, but only just enough to make sure they’re not about to plunge a knife into your back, otherwise ignore them. Keep your head down, your nose to the grindstone, and as my friend Mulder says, Trust No One*.
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*not to be taken completely literally



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I thought it was “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer” ;) But I hear ya.
And one of my other favorite sayings is, “You call me a bitch like it’s a bad thing.”
You are totally right. Women are, inherently, bitches.
Michelle it is but sometimes you just can’t.
I agree on your saying, like I said I KNOW I’m a bitch and that’s okay, it keeps me alive and kicking. I guess what I was trying to say, in a round about way, was the lack of integrity and genuineness really bothers me. Not saying I’m the most upstanding person in the world or some shit like that–Vee reminds me all the time of Karma (and I remind myself too)–but I KNOW things instinctively and it’s just kind of sad.
I am laughing ’cause 1) it’s from you and I am totaly not surpirsed (and that is NOT a bad thing - I have just come to know you so well - some times I know how your mind works - scary huh!) 2) it is totaly true!
I try never to lie - I don’t want it to come back and bite me on the butt, Karma is a real and truly scary thing! So I try to be nice and do unto others - sometimes to my detriment!
But yeah - after dealing recently with a totally fucked up family situation, I know sometimes you just cannot exude the energy you have on people who don’t give a shit other than to stir stuff up! There will always be back biters and bottom feeders - I just try to stay away!
I apreciate your honesty - it is unfortunately rare now adays when you find it so you (meaning me) tend to charish it more when you find friends with it
Gonna have to have a talk with all you ladies sometime…
This is a blog, dammit! Don’t be so shy! Speak your mind!
You’re right. The world would be in trouble WHOEVER ran it (I’m in favor or handing it over to cats, but that’s another story).
Yes, there are bitches in the world. The worst kind are the ones who pretend NOT to be.
Especially in groups. Women in packs sometimes have a tendency to become…shall we say, rather feline?
Part of the reason, I suspect, that Raine is not a joiner of groups.
So yeah, all you said. Head down, nose grindstone—and don’t forget the big hat and boots…
Dennie if you know how my minds works, could you clue me in? Kidding and love you babe ;)
Raine…and shovel. You can’t forget the shovel
I have a poster that says 0 to Bitch in 3.2 seconds.
Estella you’re a woman after me own heart
Well, I went to stand on the porch this morning, but you hadn’t put up a new post, so I went about my daily business. Then I went for a stroll in the garden only to discover that I can’t spell, and look - you were there. So I went back to the porch where you’d left a note saying you’d be here and wow, you are! Totally. Here. You crack me up. Yes, when I was in school I saw a lot of fights and the most vicious ones were between girls. I think that if we were in charge, there’d be fighting anyway, just over different stuff. You may be a bitch, but it’s the kind of bitchiness that I like and can appreciate. There are times when I’m a bit of a bitch myself and you know what? It’s liberating.
Have I ever told you how much I appreciate you?
I know what you meant. There are some women who, for whatever reason, think whatever they are and do is the most important thing in the world and to hell with everyone else. :) (sorry it took me so long to get back here - it’s been a DAY!)
Awwwww thanks Bailey! I appreciate you too
(((Mik))) on teh day. I knwo women like that too *sigh*