Why is it certain people keep you at arms length ‘til you get that publication cred and only then do they deign to speak with you? I know several authors who have had this done to them as well as several other authors that do it. 

Let’s take for example … You have those that once you sell a book or two, love you to death and you are now their new best friend. They will talk to you, ask your opinion for which they would never have seeked out before. They will even ask about you in your absence, “So how is so-and-so doing?” And “When is her new book coming out?” They now have a vested interest in your career not that they were willing to nurture it when you needed help and guidance.

And on the flip side of why-do-I-care-who-you-are, I have met one particular author no less than twelve times – no joke twelve – we live in the same metroplex. Aside from local events that we’ve both attended (One of which I was in charge of – you’d think she’d get a damn clue) I have seen her at nationals many times, yet I have to re-introduce myself to her every… single … time. (and it’s not like I look different from one time to the next – sure my hair may be a different shade of red but for those who know me, I LOOK THE SAME ALWAYS! If you have seen pics of me from about age 11 and up you’d say – yep that’s our Dennie…)

Started to give me a complex until someone pointed out (this was last year) that I was not published and past that I was not rich and thin so she had no place to remember me. Now before you get all uppity about the friend that pointed out my chubby-comings – she is uber-sweet and was trying to point out that it was said other author with the short-comings and not loveable sweet Dennie McD!

Y’know – I thought I graduated from high school years ago – but I have learned it was a training ground for life, just the beginning…..