September 28, 2006
Are you kinky?
When I found myself single again, I thought I’d try the online dating places. I’d heard they were a good place to meet people of the opposite sex and get dates.
Um. It was all a lie and I’m terribly pissed off I wasted so much money on it. And PS e-Harmony is the biggest money sucking pit ever. But that’s just my opinion. ;)
I’m sure it works for most people, however, it did not work for me. I think part of the problem was because I like the mystery of getting to know someone in person rather than online first. I don’t want to get to know who you are from the inside out. Surprise me.
But I digress…
I’ve decided there are two types of men: men who think I’m “kinky” because I write romance and men who just really don’t care.
So I devised a little test. When I tell them I write romance and the title of my book (*ahem* shameless plug here – Talk Dirty To Me, now available at Samhain Publishing), if they ask me odd questions then they are definitely out.
Questions like:
Does that mean you’re kinky?
Do you write about what you want or what you like?
Can I be your hero?
*rolling eyes* Give me a break, guys.
However, if when I tell him I write romance he seems impressed by the fact that I write period and am published and he doesn’t expect me to “act out” my loves scenes with him, then he passes the test and he can successfully date me.
And for the record, no, I’m not kinky. I write what the characters tell me to write and it’s not about me. And if you have to ask to be my hero, then the answer is probably no.
Disclaimer: Opinions expressed in this entry are those solely of the author.



You know what really irritates me? When they act like you sit around masturbating and writing one handed. If they only knew the truth–I don’t masturbate while I write but soon I’ll have mastered typing with my forehead *bang forehead on keyboard* get it? Yeah so anyway…..
…When they act like you sit around masturbating and writing one handed…
Well, how silly is that?!
The hand you write with is generally the hand you use to masturbate anyway!
(not that I would know anything about that, of course…)
why don’t they ask people who write about killers, “How many people have you killed?”
DUH!
but write about sex and they assume you are on a first name basis with every man’s penis - sheesh
Of course
Dennie probably because sex is so much more titlating, and less messy, than murder. Obviously they never laid in the wet spot
I love your opinions and ‘the test’ for men is a great one. A true gentleman if he is interested in you being a published writer and not leaning so heavily on what you write at the moment.
LOL CECE!!
I had one guy ask me so many questions about writing romance, I was ready to smack him upside the head.
Robyn, I agree. That’s exactly the kind of man I want.
cece
LOL
Oh Dennie don’t look so surprised! My first crit partner was a man and he used to (God forgive me) write by hand while the other was busy…..:cool: